The Continuing Tale of the Notorious S.I.B.'s

Looks like the miserable harpies at SurvivingInfidelity.com are back at it again, taking shots at those who have left poor reviews of their site on Sitejabber. The funny part is, they prove everyone’s point when they pull this crap, but they’re too hard headed to see it. All we have to do is sit back and watch them show us exactly who they are.

The last time I posted on Surviving Infidelity was just before the time I wrote this post:

https://www.formersexaddict.com/single-post/2017/01/17/INFIDELITY-%E2%80%9CSUPPORT%E2%80%9D-BOARDS-ABANDON-HOPE-ALL-YE-WHO-ENTER-HERE

So that’s over a year ago. A couple of weeks ago I had two snarky comments come in for moderation and Mr. P and I can tell right away that they’re from the SurvivingInfidelity crew. In fact, to make things easier I’m just going to give them a gang name. Let’s call them S.I.B.’s from now on which stands for “Surviving Infidelity Bitches.”

S.I.B. Gang Member #1 said something to the effect of “So the site is 100 percent bad and all the responses you got were the same, huh?” Well, exactly how many Personality Disordered Bullies does it take before I will advise my friends that it’s a bad place to be? Two? Three? Ten? If the Personality Disordered Bullies are allowed to run the site, then it’s a bad site. Period.

The next S.I.B. (not the same one because S.I.B. #1 was from Canada and S.I.B. #2 is from San Diego) sent some rambling nonsensical message about how something Mr. P said on S.I. “proved” he was still lying to me in December of 2016, which is longer than the “months” I claim on this site. You know what he said on S.I. in December of 2016? That he didn’t like to think of himself as a sex addict and hated the term, but he knows he was. THAT means he’s lying? Oh good grief. I can’t even wrap my head around this nonsense.

Of course you won’t see any of their b.s. comments here because I have the power of the delete button. My playpen, you see. So why would they suddenly be buzzing around my tree again? Just for the hell of it I took another look at their reviews on Sitejabber and OH…MY…GOD. An S.I.B. actually had the nerve to create a fake account just to lambast a guy who left them their latest bad review. It was about a thousand words of rambling, incoherent nonsense and knowing their track record of imagining things, I doubted any of what they claimed was even true. Within two days Sitejabber had removed it so I can’t show it to you guys.

Just in case any of you are still reserving judgement here’s some opinions of them from other sites, but I will not mention the names of these sites because I don’t want the S.I.B.’s to retaliate against them, too:

“That place brings back horrible memories.”

“[Name redacted] who was one of the founders of SI, took immense pleasure in the pain that I was in, even going so far as to tell me that she wasn’t surprised that my husband cheated on me. As if that wasn’t bad enough, she then banned me from the SI website…Initially the betrayal by SI was almost as profound as my husband’s.”

“You can imagine the emotional growth and depth of an individual that would engage in that type of behavior. Extremely immature. The irony of that is she’s in her 40’s.”

“A very dangerous place for those trying to heal in a positive way.”

“If you want true healing...find a professional.”

“Their healing library contains a section called "articles", these are posts written by other site members, not professionals. I've seen people "high fived" for hacking emails and yelling profane insults in front of their own or other children.”

“The site is incredibly harmful. Advice is freely given by armchair self-proclaimed psychologists, helping others make major life decisions based on a few paragraphs of text. The "articles" are absurd and NOT written by any experts or professionals. I feel so sorry for the pathetic members who keep deluding themselves for years and perpetuating each other's pain.”

“It's now a social club for the completely dysfunctional.”

“I was banned. There is a thread, currently, asking why I'm not posting. A mod came on and outright lied to the members. Stating I had broken numerous guidelines, had been warned many times, and that the persona given on the forums wasn't the same "behind the scenes." Absolute crap.”

“I did NOT like SI. Instead of getting an ounce of support, I was attacked. When I posted my story, I specifically told people on SI not to rip apart my husband or his story. I repeatedly asked for advice to get past it all. All I got were nasty comments that I was an idiot/fool and my husband was totally lying to me, and several nasty comments that were so far-fetched -like my hubby was screwing co-workers, probably f-ing someone at that moment... Just ugly comments. Yes, I know my husband is an a-hole for what he did. I know he was wrong, just didn't need people inventing more nasty images in my mind. I posted AGAIN on SI that I wanted no toxic comments, got attacked again, and I emailed one of the moderators that I felt I was being attacked. She said I basically deserved it for calling people toxic. She said I was the one being rude, not the other people on SI. I guess writing, please no toxic comments only helpful ones is rude. SI is just run by out of control bullies.”

Whew! That’s some messed up stuff right there. You know how long it took me to find all of those? Ten minutes. Imagine what I could have found in twenty.

So now that we’ve established that NO ONE should bother with the S.I.B.’s, what’s a good site to go to? One of my readers last go around suggested DailyStrength.com and I have to agree that it’s a very safe place in my opinion. If anyone else has any other suggestions, leave a comment.

As for the S.I.B.’s that will read this? Go ahead and keep sending me nonsensical comments. We could all use a good laugh.